Authenticity is concerned with your excellence in character. You aspire to live by certain virtues - excellence in both quality and impact. You are clear on what is meaningful to you, your values, articulating a purpose that fulfills your values. You model integrity, genuinely walking your talk in communication, action, and decisions. Being open and sincere, you create high-quality relationships which are ins.

Coaching Competencies

1. Coach helps client cultivate high quality, internal motivation –values, meaning, purpose, vision
2. Coach supports client authenticity: align values and actions for values fulfilment (well-being), cultivate intrinsic motivation (enjoyment for its own sake)
3. Coach supports client in cultivating character strengths.
4. Coach support client in pursuing virtues - excellence in both quality and impact or outcomes

You cultivate high-quality relationships. You are able to shift from a prefrontal task focus to a heart-centered connection. You build rapport, trust, and psychological safety by empathizing with others through high-quality listening. You seek to understand others’ perspectives and emotions and what is meaningful and important to them. You accept and forgive others’ (and your own) limitations and mistakes. You work to help others, without trying to impress, dominate, or control them.

Coaching Competencies

1. Coach creates psychological safety and trust for client.
2. Coach shows unconditional regard for client, and supports client’s autonomy, competence, and relatedness.
3. Coach helps client expand focus to widen horizon (inquiry) and narrow focus (reflection) to deepen self-understanding.
4. Coach listens to client words, thoughts, emotions, meaning, and for what’s missing.
5. Coach rolls with client resistance (to coach’s inadvertent control or direction).
6. Coach balances facilitative/coaching and expert advising/mentoring approaches in response to client needs.

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This capacity brings together all the previous five into compassion and self-compassion. You understand and resonate widely with a diverse variety of people in your life, which enhances your wisdom and perspective. You zoom out to appreciate the stresses and strains that you and others deal with. You combine the warmth of concern—the desire and ability to make your life better, for example, less distressing and more rewarding—with a focus on accountability, being objective about your growth opportunities.

Competencies

1. Coach models empathy and compassion for client and helps client develop self-compassion.
2. Coach helps client develop compassion for multiple and diverse perspectives and beliefs.
3. Coach helps client develop self-accountability.
4. Coach helps client develop resonance with self and others.
5. Coach helps client cultivate relational climates.

You are humble and focus on serving others, a humble steward of your life. You have learned how to quieten your ego. You foster the autonomy, agency, development, and service orientation of others, which in turn increases everyone's meaning, motivation and engagement. While there is an evolutionary basis for other-focused service (e.g., the parenting role), the service orientation develops with psychological maturity.

Coaching Competencies

1. Coach models and helps client develop humility - objective view of self, openness (conscious) and appreciation to others' contributions (positive), and teachability (agile).
2. Coach models and helps client develop a service orientation, serving the betterment of something transcendent.